Real Dialogue The Skill E-Books (3 Volumes)
Vol. 1 - 20 pages • In Real Dialogue, "Speaking for Yourself" involves much more than using I-statements. It is the ability to recognize, with modesty, that the ways you hear, see, and feel others is subjective. In times of conflict and emotional threat, you set your intention to speak only for yourself and not to argue about “the truth” or what “really happened." This little primer will help mindfully develop those capacities.
Vol. 2 - 16 pages • In Real Dialogue, “Mindful Listening” includes stepping into another’s point of view to express your understanding of it through paraphrasing and summarizing until that person feels mirrored. This skill is necessary when you are emotionally activated. Listening mindfully helps you hear what another is saying, even when you disagree and are emotionally activated. You learn to listen instead of rehearsing words to defend yourself. This short primer will assist you in being able to listen well in difficult conversations.
Vol. 3 - 16 pages • In Real Dialogue, “Remaining Curious” helps you integrate the two fundamental skills of Speaking Yourself and Listening Mindfully within the larger perspective of an ongoing fresh and engaged attitude, even when there are repetitive emotional conflicts and painful differences. To remain open and curious about what you see and hear, when you want to close off, is an advanced form of Mindfulness practice. This practice allows you to hold a Mindful Gap so that love and interest grow and conflict becomes creative, serving the process of mutual discovery.
Vol. 1 - 20 pages • In Real Dialogue, "Speaking for Yourself" involves much more than using I-statements. It is the ability to recognize, with modesty, that the ways you hear, see, and feel others is subjective. In times of conflict and emotional threat, you set your intention to speak only for yourself and not to argue about “the truth” or what “really happened." This little primer will help mindfully develop those capacities.
Vol. 2 - 16 pages • In Real Dialogue, “Mindful Listening” includes stepping into another’s point of view to express your understanding of it through paraphrasing and summarizing until that person feels mirrored. This skill is necessary when you are emotionally activated. Listening mindfully helps you hear what another is saying, even when you disagree and are emotionally activated. You learn to listen instead of rehearsing words to defend yourself. This short primer will assist you in being able to listen well in difficult conversations.
Vol. 3 - 16 pages • In Real Dialogue, “Remaining Curious” helps you integrate the two fundamental skills of Speaking Yourself and Listening Mindfully within the larger perspective of an ongoing fresh and engaged attitude, even when there are repetitive emotional conflicts and painful differences. To remain open and curious about what you see and hear, when you want to close off, is an advanced form of Mindfulness practice. This practice allows you to hold a Mindful Gap so that love and interest grow and conflict becomes creative, serving the process of mutual discovery.